What your sleep position REALLY says about the strength of your relationship (and it’s bad news if you favour back-to-back)


LOVE is in the air, and come bedtime tonight couples up and down the land will be snuggling up together.

A recent study has revealed that around 17 per cent of us – that’s nine million Brits – sleep better when our partner is tucked up beside us, but have you ever wondered what the way you nod off together says about your compatibility as a couple?

You can tell a lot about a couple and their closeness by how they sleep together
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Angela Crouch, sleep expert at Nectar Sleep said: “How a couple fall asleep and the positions they adopt, speaks volumes about the health of their relationship and how well matched they are.

“There are so many benefits to sharing a bed. Couples can feel safe and secure, and physical contact causes the release of the ‘love hormone’ oxytocin which reduces stress and promotes feelings of wellbeing.

“Every sleeping position reveals a lot about the strength and maturity of a relationship.’

We asked Angela to analyse four of the most common co-sleeping positions…

Back To Back

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Sleeping back to back[/caption]

This sleeping position sends out mixed messages about the health of a couple’s relationship.

The fact they aren’t in physical contact, there’s a significant space between them and they’re turned away from one another is all classic negative body language.

While it’s healthy to have personal space, consistently sleeping like this, they may see the physical distance turn into an emotional distance too.

It’s important not to overlook the value of physical closeness in bed, even if it’s just the occasional night when you sleep in a more connected position, or if you have some cuddles before adopting the ‘back to back’.

Don’t panic though if you crave your own space, if you are both secure people and have a solid relationship, it doesn’t mean you’re not compatible.

Just don’t forget to compromise and make time for other, more intimate, sleeping positions too.

The Spoon

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Often spooning can indicate a partner taking care of another[/caption]

There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to who’s the big spoon and who’s the little spoon – those roles can swap depending on what is going on in the couple’s life outside the bedroom.

The big spoon is playing the role of the protector and carer, and the little spoon is feeling vulnerable and seeking comfort.

It’s a position that’s indicative of a couple responding to one another’s needs, which reflects very positively on their relationship.

Make sure you take turns rather than one always depending on the other for comfort, balance is important is any relationship.

The Tangler

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Couples who sleep face to face are intimate and connected[/caption]

I call this the honeymoon sleeping position – it’s most common in new relationships when the couple are still in the throes of passion.

Face to face, body to body, it’s incredibly intimate and suggests not just a deep physical attraction but also trust in one another.

However, even couples in long term relationships can still be ‘tanglers’ from time to time.

On Valentines night, or celebrating an anniversary, they might switch from being ‘back to back’ sleepers to a position like this, reflecting the fact they feel very emotionally connected to one another at that time.

Don’t worry if you were once ‘tanglers’ but aren’t anymore, wanting more physical space in bed is natural the longer you’re with someone.

The Flat Out

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If you sleep flat out it can show you are very open and don’t need physical reassurance[/caption]

This suggests a very relaxed, easy-going relationship which is also very honest.

This couple don’t keep secrets from one another.

They’re not clingy to one another and don’t need physical contact and reassurance in bed, but that’s no indication of the depth of their feelings for one another.

People who sleep flat on their back are known to be very open, they don’t hide their true selves and a couple who are both this personality and sleeping type will be very compatible.

From battling anxiety to getting rid of pesky headaches, these are the best sleep positions so you get a healthy night’s kip.

We previously shared a survey that reveals the secrets to a good night’s sleep… from kicking out your partner to putting down the e-books.

We revealed how losing just TWO hours sleep is enough to affect your mood… how you can get a better night’s rest.



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