Care homes can be a “hot bed of romance” with one in four staff saying they have seen residents fall in love, a survey shows. Experts said the pol
Care homes can be a “hot bed of romance” with one in four staff saying they have seen residents fall in love, a survey shows.
Experts said the poll of 2,800 care home managers, owners and staff found that romance was still alive in old age.
While some couples have ended up being separated, an increasing number of care homes are now offering couple rooms, they survey found, with 27 per cent having such provision.
Sue Learner, editor of carehome.co.uk, said: “These findings show life doesn’t end when you go into a care home and in fact they can be a hotbed for romance. Adults of all ages have emotional and physical needs and it is ageist to presume older people are not interested in relationships.
“Love is a basic human need and it is encouraging to see that nearly a third of care home are now offering rooms for couples as it can be heartbreaking when couples who have been together all their lives are torn apart.”
The polling by reviews site, carehome.co.uk, also revealed 23 per cent of those working in the sector think residents should be allowed visits from sex workers, while two per cent say their residents do actually receive such visits.
Ms Learner said: “It is interesting nearly a quarter of care home staff feel residents should be allowed visits from sex workers if they want them. Although on the other hand, it also shows three quarters of care workers do not recognise sexual desire is still very much alive in the elderly.”
Marion and Stuart Potter, now 81 and 78, married last year, after meeting at Cote Lane Residential Village in Bristol, the year before.
Their romance began with a coffee, with Marion saying: “I looked at him, and my stomach flipped over.”
“We got together in July 2017 and got engaged on New Year’s Eve of 2017 on a ship in Madeira. It was so romantic.”.
Her husband said: “I asked her to marry me because she is very beautiful and I was in love with her.”
The pair said trust and respect were the secret to a good relationship.
Mrs Potter said: “We also talk a lot which is so important and sometimes we are still talking at 2 in the morning.
“We are so glad we have met each other. We don’t know how long we have got, so we are making the most of it.”