A polyamorous husband who has nine children and rotates sleeping between his three partners has said his family is just as loving as any other.
Retired firefighter and business owner, Jermaine Roquemore, 41, believes in the ability to have intimate relationships with more than one person at a time.
Jermaine from Bakersfield, California, met his first wife, Angelica, 41, who works in real estate, 22 years ago whilst he was working as a nightclub bouncer.
The pair dated and fell in love and have been married for 13 years and together they have three children, Hennayee Janiverly, 19, Jermaine Deon , 17, and Lodum Quinton, 14.
In March 2001, Jermaine met his second partner, retail manager Leighanne, 36, online and romance blossomed between the two of them.
Leigh moved in with Angelica and Jermaine in September that year.
They have four sons together, Braylon Lee Anthony ,15, Aniken Raz ,13, Izan Marcel ,11, and Holden Jermaine, 9.
In 2015, Jermaine was working away and after talking with Angelica and Leigh, met his third partner, analyst, Maria, 41, on a dating app.
After going on a couple dates, they fell in love and decided that they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together. They have one daughter together, Amelia, 2.
Jermaine, Angelica, Leigh and Maria live together with their nine children and whilst they used to share the same bedroom, now each wife has their own bedroom which Jermaine takes turns sleeping in throughout the week.
Jermaine has always been open with his partners and has given them the option to have boyfriends should they wish.
They share their family life on Instagram and YouTube and have created a support unit to connect other polyamorous families.
Jermaine said they receive mixed reactions from people who question their way of life and stare at them when they are out in public, but they’ve also received support.
“I started out dating one on one with Angelica in the beginning,” he explained.
“She didn’t lock me away and told me to live my life just to respect her and her wellbeing.
“So that allowed me the freedom to live a little considering I was a young boy at the age of 19 when I met her.
“From there I kept my options open as well as she did. She chose not to date outside of our relationship which was fine by me. I dated a couple of different partners that didn’t work out before I met my girlfriend Leighanne.
“It’s like having a team of warriors that constantly have your back and support your wellbeing. This combination of love we built has allowed me the opportunity to love unconditionally and learn the differences it takes to emotionally, mentally and physically support each of them in their and my own way.
“I look at these women as a piece of my body. An extension of my love. This is our normal and because we don’t live what this world calls a normal life, one husband, one wife. We are doing just as fine living the way we are in this situation just as good as one on one partnership. One on three is fine with us.”
Having lots of children has always been a priority for Jermaine and he has some children he supports outside of his immediate quad family.
He said: “We were taught to be monogamous and I feel like that just makes us become insecure. We’re told to go out there and find the one, the perfect love, the perfect mate and spend the rest of our lives on this earth with just that one person. To me that was very unideal for me because I love everybody.”
“Polyamory has opened that door and that opportunity for us to expand our horizons but to expand it together instead of being a broken home and me having multiple partners all over the world, we combined ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, financially and have built this empire.”
Jealousy is something that everyone in the relationship has had to deal with at some point but through communication they have been able to work through those emotions.
Leighanne said: “Jealousy was more in the beginning of the relationship as I was new to it. I struggled with the, ‘can he really love more than one?’ But as our relationship has grown individually with each other and as a whole, I wouldn’t say jealousy is an issue.
“We’ve all come to be supportive of each other and to discuss situations that we have issues with, so we can help each other understand why we do certain things with each other.”
Family Roquemore love to travel, try new food and the adults try to take trips away from their children occasionally.
Whilst they have no plans to actively extend their family at this time, Jermaine said that they would never rule it out.
Jermaine said: “We don’t have any further plans to grow our family but I can’t say it’s out of the question as life still continues to be full of opportunism and growth.
“Maybe I’ll add another partner, maybe one or all of the ladies will add themselves another partner, who knows what the future will hold. I just know we will be together and will concur it all as one.”