DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend is looking at women online on the site where we met.
I don’t want to lose him but I’m very unhappy that he still does that.
We’ve both been married before but were widowed a long time ago.
I’m 62 and he’s 64, and love isn’t easy to find at this age. I’ve been seeing him for six months.
My best friend recently joined that same site.
A guy viewed her profile and when she checked who it was she recognised my boyfriend, whose profile was clearly still live.
I love this man and I don’t want a row. He’s really kind and looks great for his age but I have to admit that I don’t know how he might react if I talk about this. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: This is going to sit uncomfortably between you unless you say what you have learned.
Don’t frame it as an accusation. Simply say what has happened and see what he says.
I hope it was a one-off in an idle moment but if you get the feeling he is regularly back on the site, then you need to be talking together about your understanding of your relationship.
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