I’m gay and I know I’d rather be with a woman but I can’t bear to tell my parents


DEAR DEIDRE: I’M fed up with people asking me when I’m going to find a nice man to marry – the truth is I’d rather be with a woman.

I’m 27 and I’ve got a daughter of six. I was brought up in a very old-fashioned home where I was made to believe that same-sex relationships were wrong.

I want to be with another woman
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Girls were always more attractive to me but I couldn’t tell anyone. I was sexually attracted to a man when I was at university. We didn’t have a lot in common so things fell apart – but not before I got pregnant.

Kids were always a joy to me, so I had my daughter and he’s a good dad.

I know I’m gay but it’s depressing to think I’m going to waste the best years of my life unless I can be truthful to myself, my family and friends.

DEIDRE SAYS: If your family is prejudiced, coming out can feel hard, but attitudes have changed hugely since you were a child and a loving family will try to be understanding.

You can find support on how to find the right words through FFLAG – Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (fflag.org.uk, 0845 652 0311).

It has a downloadable guide called How Do I Tell My Parents?

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