I’m desperate for my husband to show affection after years of not having sex


DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband never shows me any affection and we have not had sex for years.

When I asked him if he would sleep with someone else if I was not around, he said he would. We have been married for 11 years. I am 40, he is two years older.

We haven’t had sex in years and I’m getting really frustrated
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He never was a touchy-feely sort of person but these days he never kisses me at all or touches me in bed.

I still love him but when I say it is a shame that we do not have a love life, he looks very uncomfortable and I get no answer.

It’s been like this for as long as I can remember and he seems OK with it.

DEIDRE SAYS: If you did share an active sex life when you were first together, there is a good chance that your husband has some worry about sex.

It may be erection problems, worrying he will climax very quickly or be inadequate in some other way.

Read my e-leaflet Your Man Too Cold? and then talk to him again.

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