I worked from my hospital bed MINUTES after giving birth as midwives looked after my son – and I have no regrets

I worked from my hospital bed MINUTES after giving birth as midwives looked after my son – and I have no regrets

A MUM has revealed how she started working again minutes after giving birth to her son and has no regrets. Destinee Berman said friends were shocke

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A MUM has revealed how she started working again minutes after giving birth to her son and has no regrets.

Destinee Berman said friends were shocked that she only wanted a maximum of one month maternity, and even her husband asked if it was enough time off work.

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What fills you to the brim with joy? Tell me in the comments.⠀ ❤⠀ When I followed my heart and began working with other heart centered professionals and healers I became the happiest version of myself.⠀ 🙏⠀ This kind of fulfillment is something everyone should experience, and it’s why I’m so passionate about helping spiritual entrepreneurs and mind body healers extend their reach by sharing their unique gifts online.⠀ ✨⠀ If you have a gift, share it. It benefits not only you, but those you work with.⠀ 🎁 ⠀ Wishing you health, abundance and the joy that comes from doing something you love every single day.⠀ 📷 @brandingphotographer

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Here, Destinee reveals how she worked all the way through her pregnancy, including from her maternity ward…

When my son was born four weeks early, I accepted the need to text clients from my hospital bed while I was in labour.

I accepted the frantic scramble to wrap up the product launches I had planned to finish before he arrived.

My choice was mine alone, and I would never push it on anyone—and to be honest, I wouldn’t necessarily recommend texting from the delivery room if you can avoid it.

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My parents have been entrepreneurs all of my life, which meant I had a front row seat to the many difficulties to bringing good work into this world. ⠀ ⠀ As the world around us changes, some of the struggles entrepreneurs face change along with it. But one thing is here to stay…⠀ ⠀ The power of modern marketing is a necessity to reach the right people who want what you have to offer. But contrary to the feelings that come up for most of us when we hear the word 'marketing', it doesn't need to be pushy, sales heavy, masculine marketing techniques. We can connect with and grow our tribes in an authentic, powerful way.⠀ ⠀ I created Launch Your Calling to allow healers to understand and utilize modern marketing in order to reach more people. This program takes you step-by-step through everything you need to know to successfully share your work online and continue doing the great work you do. ⠀ ⠀ Link in my bio to learn more and sign up for Launch Your Calling.⠀ ⠀ 📷: @zackkravits

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I had some very time-sensitive product launches going on, and since my son came four weeks early—and very unexpectedly—my clients had no clue.

As luck would have it, I was able to have a natural birth: I started feeling contractions around four in the morning, randomly had a doctor’s appointment scheduled for 7.45am anyway, and delivered just before 1pm.

Since they weren’t aware that any of this was happening, my clients were texting me, and given that it was a natural birth, when the team took him from me to go measure and do all the rest and I wasn’t able to join for a little while, I felt fine… so I just started responded to my work messages.

I accepted the late-night feedings and the litres of coffee it took to get through the day.

What I refused to accept was the guilt other people tried to pin on me.

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For those of you I haven't had the pleasure of working with or meeting (online or in person), I’m Destinee, and I’ve helped spiritual teachers like @ashleyturner1 ,@siannasherman, and @debrasilverman_astrology expand their reach through transformational online courses, schools, and programs. ⠀ ⠀ I'm so grateful I get to do what I do every day and for all of the amazing healers and mind-body workers, I've had the opportunity to meet along the way. ⠀ ⠀ My program, Launch Your Calling, was birthed just last year. This program has allowed me to play a role in the journey of so many wonderful healers who have generated so much abundance and helped so many people by launching their callings online. ⠀ ⠀ If you want to learn more about Launch Your Calling and see if this might be the right opportunity for you, click the link in my bio. ⠀

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I had spent 19 years as a marketer, launching multimillion-dollar campaigns for the likes of Microsoft and Twitter.

But four and a half years ago, I followed my heart and started a consulting business helping yoga and spiritual teachers launch online products and grow their revenue.

It’s my soul’s work, but it is very demanding, so when I found out I was pregnant, I planned on taking just one month off after the birth.

When I told friends about my plans, I’d often hear responses like, “You’re only taking a month off? You know you’re never going to get these years back, right?”

Even my husband asked if I was sure it was enough time.

And that was before my son made his unexpected appearance a month early—and things ended up being so much more complicated than planned.

These are my three best tips to help you avoid parenting guilt

1. Do the pre-work/mental planning and really, truly consider what’s important to you.

2. Develop the muscle of giving yourself permission to choose and create what you want.

3. Have a daily practice (whether it’s taking a walk, meditating, or practicing yoga) to help you stay clear and continue making active choices.

The more you live with awareness and the more you choose to be conscious of what you want, the more you can create your own world. And you can give yourself permission to be right with it—no matter what other people may think or say.

I know these people were just trying to express concern, but the underlying message was that I should feel guilty about focusing on my career as well as my son.

Like every parent, I have moments of doubt. I sometimes wonder if I’m a good mum, but I don’t regret giving so much to my business when my son was small.

In fact, I don’t think I’m putting my work before my family at all. Instead, I think I’m teaching my son one of the most important lessons in life.

The best way to fight regret is with self-knowledge. Parents teach their children by modelling behaviour.

What I’m modelling for my son isn’t all-out commitment to my business (though I do put my heart and soul into my work).

Instead, it’s an all-out commitment to choosing the kind of life I want, instead of just downloading my values from my family or society.

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Happy New Year! The New Year is a great time to reflect on the past and think about the future. 15 years ago I didn’t think I’d be where I am today.⠀ ✨⠀ I really didn’t believe that I would be getting to use all of my technical marketing skills to help the people in the realm I love so much. ⠀ ✨⠀ I’m so grateful I was able to carve out my spot and I want to help you do the same. All of the so-called “woo woo" has been so helpful in my life, and I want more people in the mainstream to be able to benefit from these gifts.⠀ ✨⠀ What is it that keeps you from going beyond referrals and using online spaces to reach your tribe? Let me know in the comments and I’ll do everything I can to help you grow in 2019.

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When it comes to taking time off after having a baby, many parents don’t have a choice.

But for those of us who are lucky enough to have options, one mum might take six months off.

Another might take no time at all. A third family might decide it’s best for dad to be the primary caregiver.

The important thing isn’t the details. It’s that families make a choice that fits the needs and personalities of the people involved.

What I do recommend is making a decision about how you want to handle being a parent from the get-go.

I don’t think I’m putting my work before my family at all. Instead, I think I’m teaching my son one of the most important lessons in life.


Destinee Berman

Make this plan from a place of awareness about who you are and what you value.

I’ve seen a therapist for years, I meditate regularly (a practice I would recommend to anyone), and my husband and I discussed the kind of parents we hoped to be in depth before we had our son.

There are many ways to learn about yourself, but if you’ve done that work, hints from those around you that you should feel guilty simply don’t have to stick.

And this isn’t just a lesson for parents.

I learned this lesson from having to my son, and I hope to pass it on to him, but you don’t have to be a parent to face moments of intense self-questioning.

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2018 was a scary but powerful year for me. It was the year my program, Launch Your Calling, was born. ⠀ 🔮⠀ My team and I put so much work into this course to make it as accessible and as comfortable as possible for anyone who has wisdom they want to share via online spaces. I met so many healers this year, and I'm so grateful that creating Launch Your Calling has allowed me to connect with these amazing people. I can't wait to see what 2019 has in store for us all. 👇⠀ Link in bio if you want to learn more about Launch Your Calling and join the waitlist.

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There are many crossroads where others will try to tell you they know what you need better than you do.

Starting your own business, getting a big promotion, or changing careers are all milestones that force you to figure out how to navigate a new paradigm.

These are defining moments, but they are also the choices you’re most likely to doubt.

If you face these life shifts from a place of awareness, and if you take the time to really know what you want, then there will be no room for regret.

No matter what anyone says or implies, you won’t look back and say, “Why did I do that?

That was just because my parents or society was pushing me that way!” And that is real freedom.

This story appeared on Whimn and has been republished here with permission. 


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