DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL I am being hidden. My partner won’t post pictures of us together on Facebook and his status there is single.
We are both 57 and have been together for a year. I see him most days of the week and we chat on WhatsApp.
He stays at mine at weekends but I have never been to his flat. He says it is untidy.
I hate that I don’t exist to his family and friends. I have no idea why he’s this way.
His excuse is that he is very private. I feel I should have the right to be open with my friends about our relationship but am I being petty?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Not at all. Keeping you hidden like this isn’t just about being private but him holding back from committing to you and to your relationship.
If you pressure him to go public, you may find he backs away completely.
But being his secret is damaging for your self-esteem.
This is a difficult choice – and one only you can make.
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