DEAR DEIDRE: I ENDED up paying the bill for a night in a hotel with a guy who’d promised me “something really special”.
I’m 38 and divorced. I started seeing this guy through a dating site. He’s 45 and we agreed to take things to the next level.
He suggested we have a night in a seaside hotel and said he’d arrange it all. It sounded as though he was inviting me as his guest.
I got to the hotel first and they asked for a credit card so I let them take my card number. My lover arrived later and we had an amazing night.
He left the next day to go to a family party but I stayed on to enjoy the spa. When I left and the receptionist gave me the bill.
My card had been charged and not his, though he’d made the booking. Surely he realised he hadn’t paid? I don’t know whether we are going to see each other again so how do I ask him to pay me back?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Just be upfront. Say you’re happy to pay your share but footing the bill for the two of you is beyond your budget.
He’d have to be a very hard-nosed cheapskate not to pay up.
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