FOR years, potty training has been a rite of passage for all new parents.
But one mother has posted an advert for someone to do the job for them — for £50 an hour.
Getty – Contributor Potty training can be a real headache for parents
In the advert, the busy mum, from Surrey, said she and her husband found it hard to train their three-year-old girl due to their “busy careers” and wanted help for ten hours a week.
The woman also said she wanted their daughter using the potty for when her in-laws visited at Christmas and would give a “handsome bonus” to anyone who met the target.
While some parents will understand the frustrated mum’s cry for help, others think outsourcing important duties is idle parenting.
Here, two mums debate whether paying someone to take on the nitty-gritty tasks of bringing up a child is OK, or just plain lazy.
The online advert which caused a stir among mums
Yes, says writer Alice McIntyre
ALICE, from Tunbridge Wells, Kent, is all for using potty trainers. Mum to Charlotte, seven, and Oscar, two.
When I heard about people paying potty trainers I just wished I’d known about the service five years ago when I was battling to train my daughter while holding down a full-time job.
Back then, I thought nothing of paying a childminder to look after my daughter from 8am to 6pm – I trusted her to nurture, feed and change my child.
But when it came to potty training, well, that was down to me – and it was a hard slog.
Alice McIntyre is in favour of mums paying ‘nappy trainers’
I’d put the potty on the living room floor and remove Charlotte’s nappy, hoping she’d just know what to do.
Weekends were spent living on the edge, waiting for accidents.
I’d pack ten pairs of leggings for a day out, and invariably get through them all. And there was the time I took her to a friend’s engagement party at a London pub . . .
‘Excuse me,’ a very polite young man whispered, ‘I think your child has done a poo on the floor.’
Mortified doesn’t cover it. Eventually, with the help of our childminder and a stash of lollipops, she cracked it.
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But now I’m at the edge of the abyss again, about to start training my son.
And this time, working from home, I’ve got no one to help me.
I’m not ashamed to admit I’m putting it off, delaying the inevitable.
While the other mums at nursery proudly announce their little ones are toilet trained, I try not to listen.
It’s a dirty job, so I can’t see a problem outsourcing it to someone who knows what they are doing.
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People hire cleaners, gardeners and decorators to do the jobs they hate, or simply don’t have the time for – and society doesn’t bat an eyelid.
It’s no fun for the kids either, to keep soiling themselves while their parents spend months fighting a losing battle.
I’m sure my son would be grateful if someone came in and got him out of nappies in days.
To me, £50 an hour is money well spent to get over one of life’s messiest hurdles.
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No, says writer Lynsey Hope
WRITER Lynsey from Sevenoaks, Kent, is mum to Jacob, three, and nine-month-old Olive.
When you have a child, like it or not, you’ve signed up for a LOT of work.
New tasks include changing nappies, feeding, lots of love and attending to your child, day or night. You also teach them manners, how to share, to wash . . . the list is endless.
Writer Lynsey Hope says potty training is a job which must be done by the parents
I can’t understand why anyone would pay a stranger to do one of the most important jobs – potty training.
Just like the nappies and manners , it’s a job that mums and dads should do themselves.
Next we’ll be paying someone to read bedtime stories, comb nits out of hair or take children to the doctors when they’re poorly. What kind of a world would we be living in then?
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And having someone to potty train your son or daughter is not cheap. I’d rather spend that money on a family day out.
I started teaching Jacob to use the potty when he was two and a bit. I covered the potty in stickers to make it appealing and did plenty of research.
It probably took six months before we were ready to ditch the nappies for “big boy” pants.
I was working a busy job at the time and I had my second child Olive in the midst of it all.
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Invariably Jacob would need a wee just as I sat down to feed her and I was constantly asking him if he needed the loo.
I had to take a few days off work to make the final transition into pants – I didn’t feel it was a job for his teachers or grandparents.
One of the most important things with kids is they need consistency. I sat him on the potty when he woke up, before meals, before his bath and before bed. He soon got used to the routine.