A new industry has emerged in China, helping husbands and wives to separate their unfaithful spouses from their lovers. It’s called mistress dispelling, in which clients often pay tens of thousands of dollars to see off unwanted love rivals.
A middle-aged woman wearing a funereal black lace dress and large, incongruous sunglasses is ushered into the dimly lit office. She wants her name to remain secret so I will call her Mrs X, but she is happy to talk about her experiences as a client of the Weiqing Love Hospital, Shanghai’s best-known Mistress Dispeller service.
In a quiet, quavering voice she tells me that her relationship with her husband has emerged from a crisis stronger than it was in the past. “I thought it was marriage before, but I see now something better, this is real living,” she enthuses, though her eyes remain resolutely cast down.
What she’s describing is the many weeks of marriage counselling she has received, a lesson in positivity and how to be a better, more dutiful wife. Ming Li, a co-founder of Weiqing, counsels women like her (it’s overwhelmingly women who seek help) about the secrets of successful wedlock, and how to prevent a husband’s attentions from wandering. In many cases, though, it’s too late and his attentions have already wandered.
“When I discovered the affair, I confronted my husband,” Mrs X says. “We fought bitterly and I kept on asking him, ‘Why – why, when I have followed you so many years?’ At first he expressed guilt. But after all the fighting, he just didn’t want to talk to me any more. That’s when I sought help.”
Image copyright Getty Images Image caption Shu Xin says the Weiqing Love Hospital has seen a million clients
She opted to pay Weiqing to have the mistress “dispelled”. In this case, that involved having operatives persuade the 24-year-old secretary that she could do better than hang around with a man twice her age. Despite costing thousands of dollars, Mrs X is convinced this was a better option than divorcing her cheating spouse.
“We’ve been through a lot together,” she says. “I don’t want to give all this up. Separation has never been a concept I have ever thought about. And also I am approaching 50 years old, there’s just not a market out there for a woman like me.”
Ming Li and co-founder, Shu Xin, have been running their Love Hospital for 17 years, seeing more than a million clients, they say. Both put on an effervescent display, keen to describe the joyful possibilities of their brand of marriage guidance, and also the secret weapon – mistress dispelling.
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“We have 33 ways to dispel a mistress,” Shu Xin explains. “In marriage there are all kinds of problems. And one is having an affair. It’s very serious, bad for the family and bad for the stability of society”.
He goes on to itemise his four main techniques, all of which seem to involve varying degrees of subterfuge: persuading the mistress to fall in love with someone else, getting the husband’s boss to relocate him to a different city, getting parents or friends to intervene, and attempting to disgust the mistress by describing the husband’s rotten character and nasty hereditary diseases.
I point out this leaves a full 29 other methods.
“Yes but those are a business secret,” Shu Xin tells me. “We can’t talk about them in the media.”
Image caption Ming Li gives women advice on how to prevent a husband’s attentions from wandering
The Chinese media are nonetheless full of stories about alleged coercion and bribery, and threats of violence. But the Love Hospital insists it never engages in anything illegal.
Another dispeller, Dai Peng Jun, was more forthcoming. He runs his own service in Shanghai as part of a conventional private detective agency. A plain-spoken character, he runs a team of undercover operatives who travel the country helping women separate their menfolk from unwanted “little thirds”, as mistresses in China are colloquially known.
A mistress is a tumour, so the first thing to do is to get rid of the tumourMing Li, Weiqing Love Hospital
“There’s one ultimate way of dispelling mistresses,” he says. “We befriend them, we get intimate pictures or videos and then we give them to the clients.”
In other words: honeytraps. When the husband is shown that his mistress is not being faithful to him, he will most often leave her and return to the bosom of the family.
Dai argues this represents an important public service, since most wealthy men in China consider it natural to have “a kept woman” on the side. Under Chairman Mao Tse Tung, the age-old Chinese tradition among wealthy men of keeping a concubine was declared degenerate and illegal and the equal rights of women were enshrined in marriage law. But since Chairman Mao’s death in 1976, and the immense wealth that subsequent market reforms have brought, rich and powerful Chinese men, including many party officials, seem to have been reverting to the old ways.
According to one survey published in the official media, 95% of officials convicted under President Xi Jinping’s latest anti-corruption drive, have been found to be keeping one or more mistresses. Three years ago, The People’s Daily published “an adultery map”, charting where the highest concentrations of philanderers were based.
Image copyright The People’s Daily Image caption Areas in China with the highest concentrations of philandering according to The People’s Daily
Dai Peng-Jun introduces me to one of his operatives, a specialist “mistress-seducer”. He’s also called Dai, and he has a sombre manner and reassuringly deep, gravelly voice. He describes his work as a surgeon might a medical procedure.
“I act as the bait myself, and the whole team is there on hand to offer expert support,” he explains. “I have to understand the different angles needed to please the woman, what she wants. For example if she fancies a luxurious lifestyle, wants luxury products, nice restaurants, we will satisfy her. In my experience most of the mistresses are after financial rewards.”
Apparently throwing money at the problem works 90% of the time, allowing Dai to manouevre himself into a compromising position with the woman. Once his mission has been completed, he takes the necessary pictures and leaves.
I wonder how he feels about deceiving women for a living.
“We take the measures that are needed,” he says. “We represent the rights of the original couple. The client asks us to do what we are doing. And mistresses are the ones who break those standards.”
Image caption Dai, the honeytrap expert, with a fellow operative
It’s hard to measure how widespread these dispelling operations have become. In 17 years, Weiqing claims to have carried out more than 100,000. The company is hoping soon to list on the Shanghai stock exchange. Author and social commentator, Zhang Lijia believes the phenomenon can be partly explained by China’s divorce laws. Since 2011, any wealth that a divorcing man can show he has brought with him into a marriage does not have to be shared with his ex-wife. Courts will also grant the man’s family sole custody of the children, especially in rural areas.
“They say that the divorce laws were written to make men laugh and women cry,” Zhang says. “Also, outside of the cities it’s seen as shameful for a woman to divorce.”
Mrs X is certainly convinced dispelling her husband’s mistress was the only option for her, worth every penny of the thousands of dollars it has cost. Does she still love him, I ask. And isn’t it possible that another mistress will come along to replace the one that was dispelled?
“Of course I still love him. There are many things I still love about him. And now I know what the problem is with our marriage. I know how to manage marriage.”
It’s hard to challenge such optimism, and the Weiqing Love Hospital sees no reason to. Co-founder Ming Li reassures me her guidance will see them through.
“A mistress is a tumour, so the first thing to do is to get rid of the tumour. After this the relationship between the couple is healthier. It’s like learning to drive. It’s tough to get a driver’s licence, but any 18-year-old can get married. We teach them the right path to go down the road with safety.”
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Who is Jo Marney? Henry Bolton’s model girlfriend the Ukip leader left his wife Tatiana Smurnova for at Christmas
UKIP’S leader has got a new woman in his life – topless model Jo Marney. But who is Henry Bolton’s glam girl, and what’s she best known for? Here’s what we know……
UKIP’S leader has got a new woman in his life – topless model Jo Marney.
But who is Henry Bolton’s glam girl, and what’s she best known for? Here’s what we know…
Who is Jo Marney?
Jo describes herself as a “presenter, music journalist, model, actor (and) Brexiteer” on Twitter.
The 29-year-old is a Ukip supporter from Kent and has a Jack Russell terrier pooch called Lukie.
As well as her glamour modelling, Jo has done a few catwalk shows and appears in the music video for X Factor winner Sam Callahan’s song Burns Like Fire (which you can watch below).
Great weekend celebrating #independenceday
Jo went to Rochester Independent College and Canterbury Christ Church University, where she got a BA in journalism.
She went onto write for NME and Alterboy Music, as well as gigs acting on ITV and modelling for British designer Lulu Guinness.
Fantastic Xmas dinner with our leader @_henrybolton 🎄#ukip
Who is Jo Marney dating?
She’s currently in a relationship with Ukip’s leader Henry Bolton, who’s 25 years her senior.
It’s unclear exactly when they started dating, but twice-married dad-of-three Henry exclusively told The Sun he split from his Russian wife Tatiana in July.
When asked if he was in a relationship with Jo, he replied: “The answer is yes.”
But Tatiana claims she didn’t know husband had left her for another woman until he dumped her by text on December 30.
Describing how her “world has fallen apart”, Tatiana said: “What kind of person runs away to sleep with another woman, leaving their two small children over Christmas? I’m still breastfeeding his child for goodness sake.
“I feel as though I’ve been thrown in a cold ocean and I’m just trying to stay on the surface.”
Speaking of the relationship, a friend told The Sun: “It certainly took us all by surprise, but Jo is one of the Ukip family now.
“She’s lovely and clever and wants to help and support Henry.”
Is Jo Marney on social media?
Fantastic Boxing Day drinks with @_HenryBolton 💜👍🏻🍻
Yes, Jo is on Instagram @jomarneymodel and Twitter @Jo_Marney.
Her Instagram is made up of a bizarre mix of political posts and scantily clad snaps.
While there’s also a collection of pics of her and Henry over the Christmas 2017 break, including one of them out for Boxing Day drinks.
While Henry confirmed the couple spent New Year’s Day together, tweeting: “Myself and @Jo_Marney nearly run over by George Osborne in Covent Garden.”
Still supporting England 😫
What controversial posts has Jo Marney made on social media?
Jo branded Grenfell Tower a “nest of illegal immigrants” and branded Harvey Weinstein’s victims “whinging little divas” in a series of shocking Facebook rants, discovered by the Sun Online.
She even labelled the decision to offer permanent residency to survivors of the tragedy “disgusting”.
She wrote: “That entire tower was a nest of illegal immigrants of all varieties. That’s why they can’t identify most of them. Meanwhile, British families wait on the Council Housing list for years.”
In other posts, Jo describes London as a “shanty town” because of the “foreigners bringing their customs over here”.
She added: “More acid attacks, more senseless knife crime, more rapes, more people trafficking. Please take back control of our borders!!!”
In a post on the day of last year’s Westminster terror attack, she wrote: “I’ll tell you how it can happen, because we’ve welcomed SCUM into this country for years and years and years and there’re THOUSANDS of them living right here in Britain perfectly legally.”
Mum, 23, loses four stone and sheds her ‘Bridget Jones pants’ after seeing a photo of herself
A MUM lost nearly a third of her body weight after seeing a photo of herself. Sophie Jude, 23, can also shed her “big Bridget Jones pants” now she has dropped from a 16 to an eight. The Nottingham …
A MUM lost nearly a third of her body weight after seeing a photo of herself.
Sophie Jude, 23, can also shed her “big Bridget Jones pants” now she has dropped from a 16 to an eight.
Sophie Jude, 23, lost nearly a third of her body weight She was inspired to lose weight after seeing a photo of herself � Movie Production Company She can shed her ‘big Bridget Jones pants’ now she has dropped from a 16 to an eight
The Nottingham skincare specialist, who is Slimming World’s Miss Slinky 2018, gushed: “My confidence is sky high.”
Ms Jude said: “I remember one occasion where a teacher took me outside of the classroom in front of everyone and told me that I was talented but that I needed to lose weight if I was going to make it.
“In the end I became so upset about my size that I gave up on my dream of becoming a dancer because I didn’t feel as though I’d ever be accepted in the industry at the size I was.”
The mother-of-one added that her most embarrassing moment came on her second date with partner Carl.
� Slimming World Sophie admitted: ‘in the end I became so upset about my size that I gave up on my dream’ She is a skincare specialist from Nottingham
After spilling a glass of wine and needing a change of clothes, she had to dry her “big Bridget Jones pants” on his radiator.
But it was only after she saw a picture of herself with friends taken before a night out that she decided she’d “had enough”.
This girl looks so much like Cheryl people don’t believe her Facebook photos aren’t the former X Factor judge
WHEN This Morning asked viewers if they had a celebrity doppelganger, they probably weren’t expecting to find a Welsh Cheryl Tweedy. The ITV programme put a call out on their Facebook page fo…
WHEN This Morning asked viewers if they had a celebrity doppelganger, they probably weren’t expecting to find a Welsh Cheryl Tweedy.
The ITV programme put a call out on their Facebook page for anyone who looked like a celeb – and were inundated with responses.
FACEBOOK SIAN TEESDALE This picture of This Morning viewer Sian Teesdale had This Morning fans doing a double take
They posted: “Do you look uncannily similar to a celebrity? Maybe a member of the This Morning family is your doppelgänger? Leave your celeb lookalike pictures below!”
One of the most popular responses came from Sian Teesdale, who posted a selfie along with a comment: “So I get told I look like Cheryl Cole. I’m a big fan of her so I’m not complaining xxx.”
Swansea girl Sian’s picture showed her pouting from underneath a baseball cap with her thick brunette locks tumbling over one shoulder.
She also had thickly-lined eyes and a generous sweep of bronzer, which added to her Cheryl-ness.
INSTAGRAM CHERYL The real Cheryl – who has been avoiding the limelight since giving birth to son Bear
Almost 150 people replied to her and her post was liked over 800 times, with people unable to believe it wasn’t Cheryl in the picture.
One person commented: “My god, you are so similar to Cheryl! Absolutely beautiful Sian x”
Others said: “I had to Facebook stalk as I thought this was just a pic of Cheryl” and “Look like? No honey you’re twins separated at birth.”
FACEBOOK SIAN TEESDALE Like Chezza, Sian is a working mum of one FACEBOOK SIAN TEESDALE Sian also rocked a thic,k fringe – just like Cheryl in her Girls Aloud days
Another surprised comment was “Geez I had to check your photos to make sure u didn’t actually post a pic of Cheryl as a joke… twins! Beautiful” and “You look more like Cheryl Cole that Cheryl Cole does lol.”
Sian, who works as a children’s Disney princess entertainer, explained that she was a huge fan of the singer, and would love to meet her one day.
Sian has been approached for comment.
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