SITTING in the pub with a few mates, we just looked like any regular bunch of 30-somethings, sharing a pint and a gossip.
But we shunned the usual chat of babies, Tinder or owning our own homes.
Forget ‘New Year new you’ resolutions and why not commit to more acts of kindness in 2018
Nope, ours was far from your usual 30-something catch up.
We were coming to terms with the idea that statistics say we might not have a future – and vowing to make damn sure we enjoy our today.
That means eating the cake, not worrying too much about the small things, taking risks, and not always planning to live for tomorrow.
It’s about ensuring those around you know they’re loved, and trying to be kind to others.
Deborah James My friend Si is still here thanks to an incredible person who signed up to become an organ donor. He has cystic fibrosis and needed a lung transplant
As sickeningly morbid as that might be, there are times you can only laugh in the face of adversity with a big fat glass of wine.
While I’m battling stage 4 bowel cancer, my journey at times seems easy in comparison to the friend, I was with.
Si, a uni pal, was born with cystic fibrosis.
He wasn’t expected to live past the age of 12, but an active lifestyle and advances in medicine mean it’s only now he’s in his 30s that the reality of his shorter life expectancy has hit.
Facebook This week I read the letter left by dying Holly Butcher, in total, heartfelt awe
He was put on the organ donation list, and desperately said goodbye to family and friends, as his hope of a match faded.
But, thanks to some divine intervention, and a selfless 54-year-old woman who died too soon, Si woke up with new lungs a year ago.
And with it came a new lease of life, enjoyment and a good number of beers in the last year.
Why don’t we flip the idea of, “New Year, new you”, and think about the little things we can all do for others? Little acts of kindness go a long, long way.
While the biggest challenge of facing chronic rejection has reared its ugly head already, someone simply signing up to be an organ donor has given him hope, in what was a hopeless situation.
Why am I telling you all this?
Sadly Si’s story is not unique, there are hundreds of people across the country desperately waiting on the organ transplant list.
And the truth is we can all do something about it.
Facebook She told us all to “do a good deed for humanity”. Her message was to go and give blood – for her donated blood kept her alive longer
This New Year we can all do something simple to transform someone else’s life – and yours in the process too.
Rather than joining the “get fit” rampage, starting your days with green juices and queuing in the gym, waiting for machines to become free, why not try a different New Year’s resolution.
Ask yourself what will make you feel happier, better about yourself?
A rock hard new pair of rippling abs?
Deborah James Instead, why don’t we flip the idea of, “New Year, new you”, and think about the little things we can all do for others?
Will that really make you appreciate the things that really matter in life?
Instead, why don’t we flip the idea of, “New Year, new you”, and think about the little things we can all do for others?
Little acts of kindness go a long, long way.
And you know what? They might just be easier than that every day trip to the gym!
Give blood and sign up to be an organ donor – it’s as simple as that. You really can save lives – and what better resolution is there to stick to?
Like millions, I read the letter left by dying Holly Butcher this week, in total, heartfelt awe.
Her advice, like too many others in her boat before her, was about ensuring we LIVE and LOVE.
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But, it was her final words that were the most important, in my eyes.
She told us all to “do a good deed for humanity”.
Her message was to go and give blood – for her donated blood kept her alive longer, giving her precious time with her friends and family.
For my friend Si, his donated lungs are doing the same.
So this January, if you’re desperate to feel better about yourself and make a difference to others too, why not commit to two acts of kindness.
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Give blood and sign up to be an organ donor – it’s as simple as that.
Each unit of donated blood helps up to three patients, while hundreds of people die each year waiting for a new organ that never comes.
You really can save lives – and what better resolution is there to stick to?
Honestly, chemo is doing my head in.
My body has become a comedy show in itself, and the cold weather is just making everything worse.
I rang cycle 19 and the new chemo year in with some bubbles and discovered it actually helps with the side effects – just don’t tell the nurses.